All posts tagged: parenting strategies

BookS on MondaY: The Happiest Country for 40+ years and the values we can adopt for raising kids from THE DANISH WAY OF PARENTING

By Leslie Lindsay  Denmark, home of Hans Christian Anderson and Lego toys, has been voted the happiest country in the world for 40 consecutive years, most recently in the 2016 World Happiness Report. What is the secret to this consistent success? Can happiness become the new Danish export?  That’s what THE DANISH WAY OF PARENTING (TarcherPerigee/RandomHouse, August 2016)  And I have to say, the concept became intriguing to me. When I learned the U.S. ranked 17th in “the most happy,” just under Mexico, I wanted to know why and what did the Danes have on us? Here’s a breakdown of the book, which spells out  P-A-R-E-N-T and is how each chapter is organized: P – Play: Why free play creates happier, better adjusted, more resilient adults. A – Authenticity: Why honesty creates a stronger sense of self and how praise can be used to form a growth mindset rather than a fixed mindset. R – Reframing: How shifting our perception can improve relationships and well-being. E – Empathy: How fostering an empathic household can help …

In My Brain Today: Handing out Natural Consequences

By Leslie Lindsay About a week ago, I posted a comment on Facebook which seemed a tad bit controversial.  It was about my views on natural/logical consequences and went something like this:   “Yesterday, my daughter refused to clean her room.   Instead, she shoved paper and Kleenex in her nightstand drawer.  She had piles–I mean piles–of projects, toys, stuffed animals, etc on her floor, resulting in a fall hazard.  She’d heard our threats–that if she continues to treat her bedroom as a trashcan, we’d take away her trashcan.  We took the trashcan away.  Last night, the same daughter refused to eat dinner neatly after several reminders and spilled her dinner all over herself.  She hated the feeling of warm food on her sweater and jeans.  I shrugged and said, “Well, take it off and put it in the laundry room and then come back to the table to finish your meal.”   We didn’t yell, we didn’t scream.  She did. As parents, we were employing the idea of “natural consequences.”  It sounds like tough love and maybe it is.  But I will tell you, it’s …

The Teacher is Talking: The Whole-Brain Child Continues

By Leslie Lindsay (image retrieved from Amazon.com on 9.4.12)  The Whole-Brain Child: 12 Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture Your Child’s Developing Mind by Daniel J. Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson (Sep 11, 2012) We have been discussing the book, THE WHOLE-BRAIN CHILD by Dr. Daniel J. Siegel and Dr. Tina Payne Bryson.  The premise:  if you “speak” to both sides of your child’s brain (right=emiotion-driven and left=logic-driven) through 12 strategies, then you may have a better chance at picking your battles, helping your child, or problem-solve.  And who wouldn’t like to get better at those things?  Last week, we focused on strategies 1-6, today we’ll tackle the final 7-12 strategies.  Here goes: Strategy #7:  Remember to Remember–Making Recollection a Part of Your Family’s Daily Life.  For some, remembering things is well…a no brainer.  For others, it’s a little more challenging.  It’s an exercise, if you will–the more you work it, the better your memory.  Give your children practice with remembering things.  Telling and retelling a story works, so does remembering a list of letters or numbers (+/- 5 …

The Teacher is Talking: “The Whole Brain Child”

By Leslie Lindsay The Whole-Brain Child: 12 Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture Your Child’s Developing Mind by Daniel J. Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson (Sep 11, 2012)  Retrieved from Amazon.com 8.21.12   If you recall, about two weeks ago a new topic was introduced on “The Teacher is Talking.”  It had to do with a parenting book entitled THE WHOLE-BRAIN CHILD by Daniel Siegel, MD and Tina Payne Bryson, PhD.  The concept behind the book is simple: your child responds best to discipline and learning strategies when both sides of the brain (left and right, logical versus emotional) are working together.  The process “connecting” those two sides (hemispheres) is a little more complex than we make it out to be.  The Whole-Brain Child shares “12 revolutionary styles to nurture your child’s developing mind.”  The first 6 of those will be presented today.  (The next 6, next week). STRATEGY#1:  Connect & Redirect: Surfing Emotional Waves.  Let me give you a personal example.  This  occured just yesterday with my 5yo.  Three of us headed out for a morning bike ride: …