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Frisky Friday: Don’t just ‘love’ your spouse, ‘like’ her/him, too!

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By Leslie Lindsay There are days I look at my darling husband and think, “Humpf?  Where did I get the idea that he was a catch?”  You know what I am talking about.  We all do it.  Heck, he probably thinks the same about me!  I bet he looks over at me in my comfy-cozies and says, “Man, I remember when she used to get all gussied up to see me.”  Or, how about when he “forgets” to get a glass, but instead sticks his mouth under the water purifier at the kitchen sink like a drinking fountain.  Yep, I still love him, but I don’t always like him. Seems this is true, not just for me but for many couples.  According to an article appearing in the February 2012 issue of Chicago Parent, Laurie Puhn–couples mediator, relationship expert and author of “Fight Less, Love More: 5 Minute Conversations to Change Your Relationship without Blowing Up or Giving In, “I hear all the time that partners don’t like each other, but they do love one another.  …

Frisky Friday: Carving Out Couple Time

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By Leslie Lindsay “Not tonight, dear…I’m too tired/cranky/overwhelemed/all of the above.”  If this sounds like you, you are not alone.  It’s difficult to balance all of the demands of your time and hanging out with your honey often falls off the list.  But it shouldn’t.  (You know that, of course). A recent article in Chicago Parent shared some tips from Dr. Ann Hartlage, director of the Marital and Sex Therapy Program at Rush University.  Here’s what I gleaned from that article: Schedule some time.  Just as you put kids’ sports and birthday parties on the calendar and deadlines for work, pencil in, ‘get frisky with honey.’ Escape the norm.  It’s good to get out of your routine (that includes the places you live, work, and relax).  Go to the park, hike a new forest preserve or state park, go to a musuem you’ve never experienced.  New stimuli = fun and seeing your sweetie in a new light. Manage your stress.  It goes without saying, if you’re stressed, it will affect your relationships (friendships and parenting, too).  You may  …

Frisky Friday: Caught in the Act

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By Leslie Lindsay Just recently, while listening to my favorite morning radio show, I heard callers chatting about the time they were caught pants down by their kids.  Nooo…I am not talking about a little friendly mooning.  I am talking about…ahem…”the act.”  Callers, ironically were not traumatized adult children telling tales of their hours in therapy.   Nope.  Instead, it was parents calling in saying things like, “I was so embarrassed, I couldn’t face my kid for days…it was really uncomfortable…” However, according toresearch, it’s really not that upsetting for a kid to see their parents in the act.  In fact, what is a problem is when kids don’t see their parents expressing any kind of physical love at all. Nope, you don’t have to let them in on your sex life, but you do need to model intimacy around your kiddos.  Let them see you holding hands, PG kissing, giving hugs, hinting at a little more….that sort of thing…is what kids need to see in order to grow up sexually healthy.  For example, you’ll want your kiddos to see that parents can and do …